Ask yourself how you feel.
Is there a relationship in your life where you feel like you are suffocating, that you are being controlled, where you feel disoriented or distressed, or where you are just tired of being told what to do? permanently (in addition to feeling guilty for always answering yes)? Is there someone in your life that you should always take with a grain of salt to be careful not to make them angry? Do you know someone who has a habit of getting angry with you at the slightest upset, often for no apparent reason? If any of these situations sound familiar, you may be dealing with a bossy person.
- Bossy people can be men, women, or even be outside of the classic two sexes. Authoritarian relationships can be romantic or platonic. You need to be as wary of your jealous friend who hates your partner as you are of your partner, especially if your friend does not seem to be enjoying your relationship.
- Just because someone has a more vigorous personality doesn’t mean that they are bossy. You need to ask yourself the following question: “Does it allow you to be yourself or does it influence your behavior excessively?”
- Know the difference between people who have borderline problems and bossy people by testing their reactions to certain topics. If someone still gets angry with you if you touch them without warning them, but they don’t have an overbearing reaction when you change your hairstyle, gain or lose weight, etc. is a problem of limits. The personal choices of others, such as a change of religion, diet, hairstyle, or exercise, are boundary issues. Even if you think you are right and wrong, an individual sensitive to any of these topics has set certain limits when it comes to what they do with their lives and how they want to be treated. His bossy character is revealed when he begins to tell you who you should be, what to wear, think, feel, and do.
- Don’t feel too bad if you find out that you are sometimes bossy with those around you, especially if you grew up with bossy parents. On a deeper level, the environment you grew up in feels “normal” to you and it takes time for others to stop treating you like you were treated as a child. It is an important part of your healing in order to break this pattern. If you notice it at the moment, it may be helpful to back off and apologize to the person you hurt. It allows you to have healthier friendships and relationships in your life.
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