Learn to say what you think.
We can often hear jokes about the real meaning of our words, when she says “this” and actually means that or “what he’s really trying to tell you is that …” These jokes are pretty funny because they are generally true. Sometimes our partner is expected to understand our hidden message, but hoping or counting on it is not really fair or effective. Instead, expose your thoughts directly.
- When you make your case, give concrete examples of what you want to say so that your words make sense. Don’t just say, “I feel like you haven’t done your part of the house cleaning …”, say, “I’ve been doing the dishes every night for the past two weeks. . “
- Speak slowly and clearly so that your partner understands you. Do not let go of all your anger, or he or she will not be able to follow you.
- Remember that your speaking time is not limited. Review all the important things that matter to you, but don’t overwhelm your partner by talking for hours.
- Organizing your thoughts directly allows you to avoid mistaking your true motivations. Rather than offering options when your boyfriend suggests you go to a party, tell him the truth: you don’t want to see all these people after a hard week’s work, followed by an “I’m sorry to have say that, but I’m not in the mood for partying tonight. “
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