Look in the wording of the excuse for the use of any aggressive passive phrase.
This could let you know if the excuse is not sincere. She could use the pronoun “I”, but at the same time she could point out to you how wrong you are or how you made her do wrong. This kind of wording simply means that this excuse does not come from the heart and is only a means used by the person to make you bear responsibility for his mistakes or to avoid suffering the consequences of his actions.
- For example, an aggressive passive excuse could be formulated as follows: “I asked you to come with me to the party, but you refused, so I decided to go alone and I hid it from you . If you had accepted, I wouldn’t have had to lie to you. Having said that, I apologize. This person might not be as sorry as they claim and might just be building on a bad habit of using excuses to get out of difficult situations.
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